This is a response to Tatiana Bilbao Estudio’s lecture yesterday. Her main thesis was that unless private spaces is designed to become more public, the inequality will remain. Yet our own notions of privacy are dependent on so many factors. If the private self and the public self become one and the same? Is it necessary to separate the private from the public self?
This makes me recall a piece of advice that I think about a lot. A monk said that we should be trying to live as if we are always on a date. Which at first may seem tiring, but I think it is more about being self-aware. If you are always at your best, then there is nothing to hide. I want to be more like my public self. I think this is about doing less of the things that make me feel like a fraud, like snooping and checking the chat if they are there, or making myself appear invisible even though I’m actually online. Going back to an older post, I think trying to convince myself that these actions are okay are actually detrimental to my growth, and rather I should be strengthening my morals by stopping myself from carrying out these actions.
A panther is a private animal.. I like that. Private but powerful. It’s privacy is not out of shame but is a tool for its attack- it hides in order to hunt. I love that. There is a fine line though, I feel like that very easily can turn dangerous.. to hide and hunt is like serial-killer-esque.
I think I should start keeping track of my lies. If I become more aware of them maybe I can catch them before they come out.
- Instead of offering to wake her up (which I did not want to do) I tried to change the topic to be about my night habits (exaggerating her half compliment about me waking up early). The lie was me pretending to ignore what she wanted to address, which was her not being able to wake up early.
- I know that guacamole can last a while (seeing the containers in stores) but instead of saying that outright I asked it in the form of a question (because at the moment I truly was not sure)
Until the next lie,
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